By Kelly Cristine Barbosa Cherulli
Psychologist and Sexologist
Throughout times sexual behavior, by and large, has undergone great changes.
As a rebound of social-cultural transformations occurred along the history of
A few decades ago, the sexual behavior between men and women could be
defined as "conservative". In most cultures, a man should be the provider
of abode, able to express his sexuality with no further embarrassments
and discriminations. Normally young males would initiate their sexuality with prostitutes. There were also those youngsters who would have their first
sexual experience with domestic house cleaners.
With regards to the woman, she should be educated for house chores, her sexuality
ignored, should act with restrain-prude and not talk about sex-there
was neither dialogue nor information about the subject, and prized by her virginity.
The first sexual experience usually would take place at the wedding night.
Much has changed in the last decades and it includes the sexual behavior
At present, guys and girls have liberty and the same rights to relate amongst
themselves in that includes sex.
It's becoming ever so frequent to find youngsters, although it's likely they'd
suffer a certain antipathy or discrimination from a small chunk of the society,
who relate with partners for only one time or for a brief time frame, rendering
relationships as furtive as discardable.
They call it make out. Make out according to youngsters might be simply kissing
someone, one or more people at a party or suitable occasion, and can be something
else like having sex.
Such behavior brought about consequences- a constant partner trading and precocity
in the beginning of sexual relations. Apart from that, youngsters having
been coming across difficulty in living up emotions of greater intensity-love
and passion and therefore make part of established relations.
Thus, if in one hand youngsters have the freedom of make out; on the other
hand, they wind up showing difficulty in getting themselves emotionally involved
with sex partners.
It becomes clear at the office, where youngsters talk chiefly about their needs,
therein their emotions. Youngsters who claim being deeply in love by their new
partner, shortly after, report that are involved in new conquests. Such ephemeral
interest by the other is often linked directly to sexual interest of
one another, mixing passion, love with lust, and hanker.
More often than not, the youngster ends up upset for failing in having someone
along for a longer period, most of times attributing to the other his fear of
establishing a relation.
To make out is good, appraisable and bound to satisfy fad needs, besides setting
them free for new experiences.
Nonetheless, dating is even better. It's through dating that we get to know
each other in almost all senses. It doesn't necessarily means that whoever is
dating isn't free anymore.
The difference lies in who dates begins to seek new experiences in unison,
in a growing manner and maturing whether individually or by the duo.
Remember that kissing and having sex is very good, but can be even better
when on top of desire, exists love and tenderness.