By Kelly Cristine Barbosa Cherulli
Psychologist and Sexologist
Sex in adolescence encompasses myths and fantasies. Customary, adolescents
feel inclined to talk and have sex freely. Hence, there must be demystified
and clarified so that can they profess their sexuality as safely as healthy.
Coming to think of it, I decided to write this piece by prompting and to shed
light on major concerns that usually pop up at clinics and seminars.
How would be known what age suits best? There is no means of defining age for
a youngster to start one's sexual life. I firmly believe that common
sense should prevail. It's not because peers already shagged that should the
same be done. Virginity, isn't a crime or sin, it's an option. Nobody who feels
emotionally unprepared for this new phase should engage in sex at risk
of developing guilt feelings and/or trauma.
Could someone get pregnant if not wearing condoms? Yes. If a young girl who
is in her fertile period decides to have sex without any contraceptive
method or prevention she can get pregnant. Many young girls report having got
pregnant at their first sexual relation. Safe sex by wearing condoms
is imperative since not only it prevents undesired pregnancy, but also diseases
Should youngsters disclose to relatives? Usually I say that an individual's
sexuality pertains to oneself and that doesn't differ by the fact of
being adolescent. To let it out of the chest to relatives may hold profound
significance to the youngster. It depends on what kind of terms, dialogue, one
keeps up with relatives. By the way, it shouldn't be mandatory.
Must orgasm take place? Nobody, especially at the first sexual relation,
mustn't count on orgasm reaching. The first time is crucial. It's a moment as
delicate as insightful in the life of all human beings. It's when we learn to
acknowledge our own body and of the other, be experiencing sensations and emotions
which might lead or perhaps not to orgasm. So, it's consequential and not compulsory.
Is the doctor's visit important? Definitely. To my mind, go to see a doctor
is a sign of maturity. As he/she can clarify doubts, besides giving guidance
on contraceptive methods and prevention.
In the practice of safe sex, the youth shows keenness on health matters
and concern towards the well-being of oneself and the other.
Is masturbation harmful? No. Although certain cultures and religions being
staunchly against, the practice of masturbation is business as usual, mainly
at this phase.
Evidence emerged from research that masturbation is healthy a practice to both
sexes and at any given phase of life. When desire takes over, preferably
choose somewhere private, in order to preserve your intimacy and privacy.
Actually, sexuality may and should be exercised in its plenitude in
a mature and responsible way. Self-respect and for the other is indispensable
for the moment to become a good remembrance. As well, feelings should be respected,
in my opinion when sex is done with love and care it turns out even more