By Darci L. Duro Janarelli
The ceaseless quest for pleasure is something that should be induced ever;
for all that pleasure is such unique sensation of well-being mentally and physically,
mostly regarding sex.
Unfortunately not everyone manages to relish in its totality and plentifully
all that a sexual relation is capable of providing, mainly when it comes
down to adolescence.
In adolescence, unlikely what many hold dear, things aren't as easy as they
may seem. Despite the hormones being in ebullition and the eagerness to sample
new emotions, an adolescent's life is far from being a sea of roses. It is relatively
common, adolescents still in their first sexual experiences complaining
about difficulty in making out. Common ground shares accounts on pain at penetration
time, difficulty in lubrication and absence of orgasm.
As far as sex concerns, petty restrictions may bring about certain frustrations
to the adolescent. Predicaments as the lack of own vehicle for locomotion, cash
thin on the ground and inexperience usually bring about certain hiccups to these
youth eager to live up and take the most out of what life can provide them.
The fact of neither owing a vehicle nor having a driver's license prompt the
adolescent couple to initiate their relations homebound, with little if none
More often than not such relations need to be hurried up by fear of being disclosed.
Even those families more liberal, who allow the relationship of their sons at
home, many adolescents feel constrain and inhibited by the very presence of
relatives whenever around. Such inhibition may interfere in arousal leading
to a dysfunction of orgasm by the degree of tension created.
A common-guard fact, reported by adolescents, it is the hardship and the nescience
of orgasm. Many complain of not feeling anything unusual, despite the relation
being described as highly satisfactory. The incertitude of own physical attributes
aggravates even further the situation. Most young girls are not aware of which
spots or zones of their bodies would cause sensation of pleasure, thereby are
criticized by their boyfriends "more experienced" who say that they
don't feel anything, rendering them feeling even worst.
Usually I say to these young girls that sex is continuous an apprentice. By
guiding towards seeking self-awareness physically, whether through masturbation
direct or even through touch on diverse areas of the body searching for pleasurable
sensations on which point will appear.
Only by getting to know the areas that would yield pleasure most would she
be able to teach and direct her partner as to how intensify caress on some such
referred areas hence pleasure inducing.
Above all, I attempt to tranquilize these girls by saying that sex is time-consuming
apprentice, dialogue, privacy and dedication. After all, how to obtain pleasure
out of a relation if instead of yield in ultimately, one remains thinking about
the math's test of morning next? Sex means total relinquish, should be done
with responsibility and respect.